I use several techniques when students are disruptive in the classroom. I make it a learning experience for the students, reminding them that they need to raise their hands, stay in their seats, etc. If a student still has a problem, I whisper a conversation about the behavior and show only the student the behavior slip. I tell the student the referral is filled out and ready to be given to the principal. I leave it upside down on the student's desk and tell the student that if there are no more problems, he/she can rip it up and throw it away after class. This lets them have control over their behavior.
For other situations, I take the student out in the hallway and bring a referral slip to show that I mean business. If I am going to write up a student, we discuss why and strategies that can be taken so it will not happen again. The student fills out the referral himself listing the discipline problem and the action taken. “Action taken” could be a conference, a call home, lunch or after-school detention, or a meeting with the principal, who chooses the student’s consequence. Students usually choose after-school detention with me, and at the end of the detention we conference with the parent who picks up the student about why there was a detention and how to avoid it next time.