Learning and Practicing Good Manners, Grades 9-12
Lessons, Resources, and Activities to Practice Good Manners
Manners are rules for behavior. They change with time and vary from culture to culture. Their purpose is to promote social concord. September, and the beginning of the school year, coincide with National Children's Good Manners Month, which affords a perfect opportunity to review how classroom rules ensure a harmonious classroom.
Use the following lessons, resources, and activities to practice good manners, investigate temporal and cultural differences, and test student knowledge.
Turn Down the Dial on Cyberbullying and Online Cruelty Students in grades 9-12 Students view two videos and identify factors that contribute to online cruelty and identify what upstanders can do to lessen the effects of this online cruelty. Students then create diagrams to show how online cruelty can escalate or de-escalate.
Taking Perspectives on Cyberbullying Students in grades 9-12 explore a scenario in which a teen girl creates a hate website about another girl and then take the perspectives of different characters and brainstorm alternative decisions each character could have made.
The Good Behavior Game Manual (
PDF, 122 KB, 38 pgs.)
“A team competition for prizes, privileges, and special activities. Check marks are recorded on the blackboard for a team when disruptive behavior of any team member occurs. If the check marks for a team remain below a pre-set number (4) by the end of the Game the team wins. All teams may win if their check marks do not exceed the pre-set number (4).”
- How Table Manners Became Polite
- Making Introductions
- Cultural Savvy
- George Washington’s Rules of Civility
Etiquette: Online Books
Links to three centuries of books on etiquette and manners for children, teens, men, and women.
Etiquette: A History of Social Dance in America
Etiquette in eighteenth and nineteenth century ballrooms
A Treatise on Good Manners and Good Breeding by Jonathan Swift
Unlike Swift’s satiric “Modest Proposal,” this brief essay is a straightforward discussion of manners. He recognizes cultural differences, acknowledging that nations fix manners “best suited to their general customs.”
- Table Manners for Kids and Parents
- Table Manners
- Don’t Gross Out the World
- Miss Business Manner’s Etiquette Quiz
- “Good Manners” (
PDF, 831 KB, 1 pg.)
First issued to Queensland, Australia schools in 1898.
- Table Setting Guides
- Miss Manners on the Colbert Report with Steven Colbert
Almost lost in the high jinks is a useful justification of good manners.
Printed and audio. Listen to the author, Carl Dennis, read the poem.
- The History of Manners (The Civilizing Process, Vol. 1)
By Norbert Elias
Pantheon; 1st paperback edition (August 12, 1982)
- Learning How to Behave: A Historical Study of American Etiquette Books
By Arthur M. Schlesinger, Sr.
Cooper Square Publishers (1968)
- A Short History of Rudeness: Manners, Morals, and Misbehavior in Modern America
By Mark Caldwell
Picador; 1st edition (July 7, 2000)
last updated: August 30, 2016